Lawyers need emotional intelligence skills. Emotional intelligence is the key differentiator between success and failure. To obtain that critical advantage in securing new engagements or obtaining that corporate, association or government promotion, learn how to optimize your emotional intelligence skills.
Do You Know Your Emotions and How They Affect Behavior and Relationships?
Daniel Goleman has done a lot of research on the importance of emotional intelligence in the corporate world. In his book, What Makes a Leader: Why Emotional Intelligence Matters, he states:
Organizations primarily focus on cognitive intelligence or IQ as the primary factor in hiring and promoting. Research shows that this is the wrong approach. Goleman points out that, given the necessary amount of IQ to do any particular job, more cognitive intelligence doesn’t necessarily increase performance or land that sought-after promotion. Rather, the key ingredient for success is Emotional Intelligence (EI). This is particularly relevant to a lawyer’s ability to obtain a corporate or government promotion or to generate new business.
Get a Greater Return by Focusing on Your Emotional Intelligence Skills
Stop focusing on IQ and look at emotional intelligence EI if you want to get ahead and succeed.
IQ is static from about age 17, so reading more law books will not make you smarter. Learning more law in your practice area is great, but you might find that assessing and practicing your EI set of skills will provide a more immediate return both professionally and personally.
Greater emotional awareness and strength will make you more effective with your colleagues, clients, friends and family. You need to be attuned with your client’s emotions as well. For example, if the client is anxious about a particular project, you must be able to read that and respond accordingly. If you seem too relaxed when the client is anxious about an issue, you will look unconcerned. This is the cornerstone of empathy, discussed in more detail below.
Coaching Can Help You Fine Tune Your Emotional Intelligence Toolbox
This is where coaching can help. I have been certified in administering and interpreting the EQ-i 2.0, which is the gold standard in measuring your EI skills. Once you take the assessment, we will review the report and look at whether it might be beneficial for you to adjust your EI set of skills to attain optimal performance and results.
Together, we can make you a more effective leader, lawyer, colleague and friend. Why not take advantage of all possible approaches to up your game and drive your success and relationships to new heights?
What is Emotional Intelligence? Can it be Measured? Can it be Learned?
EI is a set of emotional and social skills that affect our thoughts, interactions, coping strategies, motivations and general psychological well-being. It affects our behavior every second of our waking hours and also controls our relationships with our family, business associates, partners and clients.
Like IQ, EI can be measured. The EQ-i 2,.0 is an assessment tool composed of 16 elements. Your score on the EQ-i relates to your potential for performance—it’s not a performance measure itself. Below is a model that presents the various elements of EI.
A unique and very important aspect of the EQ-i is that it also reports a composite score for well-being and overall happiness. You have every right to be happy and the good thing is that you can learn to live a happier and more productive life.
Unlike your IQ (which is fixed at about age 17), EI can be trained (learned) and altered (increased or decreased). Yes, some people have too much of an EI element and that can lead to problems. For example, too much self-regard makes you look arrogant and full of yourself. Instead, a healthy dose of EI makes you confident, yet humble.
If you know your EI strengths and weaknesses, you can decide if various EI elements need to be enhanced or downplayed for you to be as effective as possible at work and in your personal life. That’s where the EQ-i 2.0 assessment tool plays an important role. You will receive a detailed report of your EI scores on all 16 elements.
We can then go over your scores and discuss your strengths and weaknesses as well as any surprises. This gives you a starting point to discuss the elements that you might benefit from increasing or decreasing, and how to go about doing that. You can then put together a strategy for enhancing your use of your EI skills.
How Can Emotional Intelligence Help Lawyers?
The areas where EI can improve the performance of lawyers is limitless. EI affects all behaviors and interactions and has been shown to be the most important differentiator between success and failure. Here are some of the key areas where EI can improve your performance:
- Greater Sales and Increased Revenues.
- Stronger and Effective Client Presentations and Interactions.
- Better Time Management.
- Strong Team Management Skills.
- Enhanced Connections to Firm Management and Other Partners.
- Ability to Stay Motivated and Keep Others Motivated.
- More Effective Problem Solving Skills.
- Enhanced Stress Management and Less Burnout.
- Better Hiring and Promotion Decisions.
Emotional Intelligence in a Nutshell
EI is composed of several components that we are all familiar with but fail to recognize and use to our ultimate advantage. Here are some of the main components:
- Self Awareness–your feelings and emotions affect your decisions, relationships with others and job performance. Self-awareness requires a good understanding of your strengths and a recognition of your weaknesses. Are you aware of how you’re feeling and how those emotions affect your decisions, analyses and interactions?
- Impulse Control–managing your emotions and actions with others creates trust and a sense of fairness. It is characterized by thoughtfulness and reflection. Do you fly off the handle or act without vetting an issue fully? Do you talk too much in meetings?
- Self Actualization—the ability to motivate ourselves towards goals. Virtually all effective leaders have this ability. This is a drive to achieve for its own sake. The fun is in setting goals and achieving them. Do you set measurable goals and performance measures for yourself and your team?
- Empathy—ability to appreciate another’s perspective and feelings. Empathy is important to making good decisions and making others feel appreciated and heard. It also enables you to be more sensitive to other cultures and ethnicities. Do you take time to get a sense of what the other person is feeling?
- Optimism–the ability to see hope and expect the best in the face of adversity. This is the core quality of resilience. These folks keep going! Do you look at setbacks as a challenge and a temporary obstacle to your ultimate success?
- Interpersonal Relationships--leaders and lawyers need to establish and manage relationships effectively. Motivation and empathy are not very useful if you don’t have an opportunity to use it.
- Assertiveness–the courage to express your views, even if they may be rejected. This is a core quality of a great lawyer. You must be able to state an opinion before testing the waters. Can you take a risk and state your opinion without being aggressive or abusive?
Improve Your Performance Now
In today’s competitive market, you need to have all the skills available to do your best and to be as impressive as possible. We can work together to assess your EI skill level and make you more effective both in your work and in your personal relationships.